1. Men look for quality. Boys look for quantity.
Men are more concerned
with the quality of their relationships than the frequency of their relations.
They can go out on the
weekend and not feel compelled to bring someone home just so they can tell
their boys about it in the morning.
2. Men know when to call it quits. Boys know how to wait it out.
Part of being an adult
is the ability to recognize a situation that’s counterproductive and take the
steps to put yourself in the best long term position possible. Sometimes that
involves making tough decisions that leave others hurt along the way. It’s part
of life.
One of the most
difficult things to do is tell someone you’re in a relationship with that you
no longer want to be with them. One of the most cowardly things to do is stay
in that relationship in hopes that you can get the other person to end it
because you don’t have the courage or courtesy to do it first. Men have the
difficult conversations. A boy avoids them and hopes that the woman will
do what he should’ve done first. Even worse, boys disappear without saying
anything at all.
3. Men know how to listen. Boys don’t.
The ability to listen
comes with the acquisition of wisdom. Somewhere along the way you learn that
what you’re anticipating isn’t as important as what you allow the other person
to say. Whether you know you’ll agree or disagree isn’t relevant. It doesn’t
matter if you think you have the answer. It’s more important to just be there
in the moment and listen. Men develop an empathetic ear over the years. Boys
miss the message.
4. Men value a woman’s time. Boys waste it.
The value of our time
increases with age. We don’t wanna waste it playing meaningless games or
dancing around reality. We want people to be straight forward with us about
what’s on their mind and what they see our situation evolving toward. Men don’t
need to lie to women to get what they want. They get that by being who they are
and being willing to accept the consequences
5. Men admit their transgressions. Boys convince women they’re insecure or crazy.
Conceding that you’re
wrong or at fault isn’t always easy, but most of the time it’s the step that
needs to be taken. Men understand this. They can admit when they’ve had a lapse
in judgment. They can take the heat for the unintended results of their
actions. Boys can’t. In relationships, boy finds ways to convince women that
they’re insecure or acting crazy when they were right all along. You see this a
lot with emotional and physical infidelity
6. Men date women. Boys date girls.
Men date women with a
clear sense of direction and self-worth. We date the experience that has molded
her into the person she’s grown to be. Boys date girls. They date the
impressionable, the naive and the uncertain because they’re easier to
manipulate. They look for someone that can’t spot their insecurities, or they
date someone more insecure than themselves. Men understand that the difficult
is done today and the impossible takes a little longer. Boys are concerned with
the ease of the present moment
7. Men ask women out. Boys wait to be asked.
Part of being a man is
dealing with rejection. You can’t win ‘em all, but you can try to win the ones
you want. Men go after what they like. Boys watch their likes pass by and
pursue only those who pursue them first. They don’t initiate conversations or
ask women out. They wait to be asked because they’re afraid of losing. Men can
accept defeat. Boys dance around it.
8. A real man takes responsibility
A real man takes
responsibility for himself, his wife or girlfriend, and his kids. His word is
his bond. He believes it’s important to fix his mistakes and make sure that no
burden that should be his is passed on to anyone else
9. A real man is a leader who can make decisions
A lot of women
won’t admit this, but most of them absolutely hate being the one who makes the
decisions in a relationship.
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